Alright, alright, I’m about two months late in creating some sexy quarantine post, but like…a LOT has happened. If you’re a citizen of planet earth, I’m sure you’re no exception to the fact that life has gotten a bit cray cray.
First, I created an email campaign to start reconnecting with you beautiful humans back in March, only to be bombarded with 14 hour shifts to help keep another organization’s dream afloat.
Yes. Defaulted back into helping others over myself. Goals = out the window.
But, guess what? I’m officially unemployed, like 22 million other Americans. And as much as it’s a stressful concept, I have had the privilege of getting real with myself…yet again, and it’s called for some creativity.
Here are my top 3 quarantine sextivities (subject to change as time goes on, and creativity flows…). Hope you enjoy!
Perhaps this is an obvious one, but for those of you who don’t know me, I’ve been exclusively interacting with my hubby and women. Turns out the lack of outside attention has been leaving me a little restless, so I’ve opened the Tinder gates to some virtual male interaction.
This took a few conversations between J and I to, first, understand my intention (because I wasn’t even 100% sure why I wanted to send strange men pics of me), and secondly, what the ground rules were.
Prior to my relationship with J, I found myself seducing most of the men I hooked up with. What I mean by that is, I tended to be the one who did the teasing and pursuing. When J came into the picture, it was the first time I really had a man assume that role. It’s an incredibly satisfying thing; however, from time to time I miss the chase. I get that Tinder may not be the easiest place to fulfill this desire of mine, but it’s a safe starting point AND, for anyone looking for some virtual hum-hum, kind of a guarantee.
They don’t call me the Queen for nothing. I love some serious pampering, and lucky for me, my man is a hands-on kind of guy.
We recently bought this bench, which we’ve used as both a sex and massage table. Who knew a dining room set would be my new favourite piece of play equipment?
We will spend full afternoons or evenings setting the tone (music, candles, lotions), and taking our time to just touch one another. Depending on your comfort level in your own relationship, it could be nice simply to set a timer, play some soft meditative sounds, and just do some deep-tissue Covid detoxing.
If you’re really feeling frisky, make a rule that you can touch each other anywhere, except for the genitals for a specific amount of time (say, 30 minutes?).
Master J likes it when I can barely contain myself anymore, so he’ll sometimes go as long as an hour, applying lotion to my skin, and rubbing me down. If your love language is touch, this is a surefire way to get those loins a-heated!
Ps. You can always ad restraints, blindfolds, and some light (or hard) whipping.
ALTER-EGO DATE NIGHT
This is a classic Mo and J experience.
One of us will play the host, the other a delicious guest. The host will cook dinner, and set up the room with the festivities in which they want that evening. Then, enter guest. The goal is to genuinely seduce each other in the same way we would if we were on a first date. There’s no jumping the gun, or throwing in the towel. We approach these evenings with the same attitude and respect that we would if we were getting together for the first time (so, no groping and gawking, people!).
Yes, we even pick new names, new stories, sometimes even a crazy outfit that is WAY out of character.
NOT FEELING SO FRISKY, but still want to connect?
Here are a few alternatives for people who are just looking for a fun activity that doesn’t include Netflix or family Skype calls.
House Party: All you need is two devices, the app downloaded and a good sense of humour. This app has a variety games from trivia to Ellen Degeneres’ famous Heads Up. Of course, if two isn’t feeling like a party, you can always invite friends virtually.
Becoming: I recently purchased Michelle Obama’s guided journal. It’s based off of her autobiography, Becoming. Although it is meant to be completed individually, Master J and I have recently been asking each other the journal prompts aloud. By doing this, we’ve learned a lot about each other’s pasts, wants and feelings.
Boho Beautiful: I have adopted a wonderful yoga routine, and am in love with this woman! You can find her videos through her link and on youtube. I always recommend partners getting physical with each other outside of the bedroom. Because much of the world is prohibited from going into nature at the moment, having an activity that can be done indoors is a great way to sweat together.
I’d love to hear if you and your special someone(s) give any of these items a go! Feel free to share your ideas in the comments below.
Fuck well, friends! And happy-quarantine!